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Sunsets on the fallacy of fabulousness

Dearest one,

In life, you’ll find moments of fabulousness.  Is that even a word?

Yep.

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Good, let’s go with that.

To make it even better, let’s go with Fab for short.

And over a cup of coffee that was, by the way, fab in Jamaica.  This one is close to making me smile like when I sipped a cup of it in Jamaica.

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It was spectacular with the breakfast there, too.

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But, this post isn’t about Jamaica, really, but sort of in a way.

It’s about the fallacy that we can become fabulous without effort.  Sorry, folks, a wild splashing fab person doesn’t just appear out of nowhere.

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Unless there’s someone there to take a photo of you.  When you tell them to.  Or you have a selfie stick.  Or the paparazzi, or a fan club.

Nope, you’re off track if you think that one day out of the blue you’ll be famous.  That only happens in fairy tales.  Right?  A girl can dream, though, and play and have fun with ideas.  And that’s okay.  Dreamy thoughts aren’t a bad thing.  Don’t be shy, give it a try.

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But don’t believe all we see and secretly wish was true on social media about how easy it is to become famous.  Those ideas shall cross such a fine line, it’s ridiculous and frankly BS.

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There’s a lot of work involved in becoming the special famous person you’re meant to be in this life.  Along with lots of crashing thoughts that will come your way to burst your delusional bubbles before you really do shine.

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You might fall for the sales pitches, and you may even wish you had caught the big boat before it left the harbor of your safety nets.

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Don’t worry, dear, there will always be another boat, ready to set sail.

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It might even take you in the same direction, just with fewer people to compete with.

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Work harder than everybody.  You’re not going to get it by whining, and you’re not going to get it by shouting, and you’re not going to get it by quitting.  You’re going to get it by being there. – Barbara Walters

It might be okay to let that one go by, too.   So you can focus on YOU and your dreams.

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You’ll find what is right for you.  Remember this, my dear, the crashing waves of despair and frustration of ‘will I ever make it to fabulousness’ will smooth, and you will shine.

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With each sunset, don’t forget to be proud of your efforts.  It’s a big job to be fab.  Always take the job to be glad your alive in the world that is waiting for your brilliance.

Waiting to see how you’re special you are.

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Post Inspiration – Linda G. Hill’s Stream of Consciousness Saturday – Fab and A-Z Blogging Challenge 2019 – F

PS – Where is your favorite spot to dream?  Were you raised as a child to believe in yourself, or did you have parents who said, work hard then you’ll be happy?  Do you think social media helps or hurts when it comes to the messages of being fab or not? 

 

 

32 thoughts on “Sunsets on the fallacy of fabulousness

  1. “…becoming the special famous person you’re meant to be in this life.”

    Great line. If I am truthful, that is sort of how I approach some things I do. Not everything, of course. I can be completely unspecial in the grocery, but in other ways I want to be more famous. In a good way.

    1. Thank you, Ally. I can picture a pretty awesome expression or you taking out a notebook to remember a fab moment from the grocery store to share on your blog that is FAB! You’ve got fab gifts that I truly admire. Thank you for stopping by to share your thoughts, I appreciate you!

  2. Beautiful sunsets, Shelley. As long as you work at what you enjoy, it’s good. Special would be a welcome bonus, but I’m not sure it’s required.

  3. Such thought provoking questions.

    My favorite spot to dream is everywhere. I am in my head and my own thoughts dreaming more often that not. A thinker whose mind never stops hence the insomnia of late.

    My parents never really told us to believe in ourselves but they demonstrated the “work hard and you’ll be happy” mindset.

    I think social media is a blessing and a curse. I am glad to be connected across the miles but I dislike the faux world one can present. “Real” life doesn’t work the way social media spins it. Sad but true.

    1. Thank you, Jill, I appreciate you sharing your thinking thoughts. You have an amazing mind that purges ideas to the page that make me pause and think too! Real life gives us moments to celebrate, stress about, and endure and of course smile about, too! Happy Saturday to you!

  4. Totally true. Hard enough for me to find time to BE an artist with my job, but then to do the blog? A lot of work! I am waiting for famous!

    1. All of it together is A LOT of work. It’s nice to visit blogs like yours where the artist shines despite all the hard work!

    1. Aw, you’re welcome, hope the rest of your day is great!! Thanks for stopping by, so nice to hear from you again!

  5. Shelley, you look so good, cute and adorable!
    Your question: Were you raised as a child to believe in yourself, or did you have parents who said, work hard then you’ll be happy?
    When I was 14 years old, I started a diary. I entitled it” History Of A Failure”. How horrible to have been a teenager and have thoughts like that? Needless to say, I believe in myself. I’m my biggest fan. I done good!

    1. Aw, thank you, Cindi! Thank you for taking time to answer my question too. Oh, my, yes, that’s quite the title. I’m so glad you didn’t live out a life with that title. You have done good and you’re an inspiration to me, too, by the way! xx

  6. This is such a beautiful post I had a smile throughout. And you look pretty there 🙂
    And yes you have to pursue your dreams to see them coming true. Success doesn’t follow you, you have follow it.

    I was raised to do everything perfectly right as per normal and that’s pretty oppressive. And social media hurts everything!

    1. Thank you, I appreciate your words of encouragement! I agree with you, the message to be perfect is oppressive and social media doesn’t help us either! Keep up your efforts – you are making a difference!! xx

  7. loved the beach shots and the hope here – and wisdom

    “Always take the job to be glad your alive in the world that is waiting for your brilliance.”

    – and quick question – Is that an old photo fo you or did you dye your hair? your recent picture shows that all natural, and pretty, silver – so just curious

    1. Thank you, so happy to read that you enjoyed the post. That is a recent photo – the back of my hair is still very dark, and it was the shadows of the sunset making it look darker. So, it not an old photo – yes, I’m all natural silver now, never EVER going back to the dye bottle again. 🙂

        1. You’re welcome. I wholeheartedly agree on the effects of the ocean. It’s a happy place for me, even after I return home. The pictures take me back there when I need a pick me up!

  8. Favorite spot to dream: a spot to myself on the beach – oceanside, on the sand, on a warm day. With nowhere else I have to be.
    I was raised as a child not to spend time dreaming. Do something worthwhile and constructive was the priority. The working hard part was there, but an “enough” end point was often elusive!
    Fantastic sunset photos!! I enjoyed your post 🙂

    1. Thank you for sharing. I agree with you on the favorite spot. I always sit and dream when I’m on the beach. I’m glad that you didn’t stop dreaming and creating – you have a gift, keep letting it shine! Thank you for the photo kudos – it’s hard to take a bad picture of a sunset over the ocean. I’m so glad you enjoyed the post :-)!!!

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