Welcome to February folks.
Wait…where the hell did January go?
I have no idea, I must have blinked? Or napped too long?
I just checked, and the date on my computer says, “2/1/2018” – it hasn’t lied to me yet.
So there you have it, it is February 2018.
Now that we got the date thing out-of-the-way, it’s time for a serious conversation. And goal setting. Unlike my post of yesterday, where I dissed goal setting, I’m actually a self-proclaimed Dubious Minimalist Goal Setting Queen (or King if you’re a guy) TM. I do set some goals, and adjust them as I go, and I succeed. The lack of undue pressure in my method is OUTSTANDING and makes it easy to break free from accusations like these whoppers:
- You’re a workaholic
- You’re an overachiever
- You’re such a saint
- You’re so organized
- You’re so disorganized
- You’re such a perfectionist
- You need to get your shit together
- You’re so skinny or fat or whatever weight
- You’re eating too many chips or drinking too much
- You’re not good enough
- You’re a failure (OUCH…that hurts doesn’t it!?!)
If you’re prone to goal setting obstacles in the form of thoughts running through your head, hang around for the rest of this post for an alternative to consider – perfect for the short month of February 2018. February is only 28 days long, a habit forms in 21 days, so you’ve got a 7-day cushion to bounce & relapse on your goals, and in the end, SUCCEED!
You see, the whole deal about goals is that they’re great to help you see IF you did do something, but they can also be so big and grand that they prevent you from ever achieving them. When you don’t achieve them, you feel, well…like SHIT! At least I do. And I hate that about unachievable goals.
I ain’t got time for that. THAT isn’t why I set a goal in the first place. NOPE! I set it to feel good about the results. To achieve what I wanted to. Isn’t that what we all want? I think so. I believe so.
So, what’s my DMGS advice for goal setting?
The goal setting should be GFTH-GFTB.
Good For The Heart – Good For The Brain (#GFTH-GFTB)
In other words, if the goal helps feed your soul, it will free your thoughts and remove obstacles in your way.
Let me digress for a quick story – last year, at this time, I was 20 weeks into my going-gray journey, with roughly 4.5 months of lovely demarcation skunk line outgrowth. I signed up to present to a group of 150 people sprouting a white line across the top of my head. Not a single person said anything to me, (we’re polite here in Wisconsin) but if stares of WTH? could kill, well, you know – that’s how I felt. But I had committed to reaching my goal, and I wasn’t letting anything get in my way to my authentic self. This month, I found out the lady I had presented with passed away in December. I only met her briefly; she was warm, caring, and a beautiful naturally gray-haired woman. She was authentic to herself, those she served, and now she is gone. She is missed terribly by her co-workers and those she helped in her work and home life. Those WTH looks I thought I had received are washed away and mean squat to me now when I consider them in the big scheme of things (aka, life). What matters to me when setting goals is how my hearts feel and how I interpret their impact for the good in life and people I meet and share it with.
February is heart health month. What I love about heart-healthy goals is that they also help keep our brains healthy in the process. The perfect recipe for achievable goals.
As a challenge to myself, I’m going to focus on #GFTH-GFTB activities for the month of February (and beyond…because I’ll love the results).
If you’ve stumbled upon this post and it resonated with you, I’d love to have you join me. No pressure though – if it isn’t something that is GFTH-GFTB to you, by all means, do what works for you!
But if you are up for it, let’s learn from each other and share links back and forth and spread the love of learning how to live with goals that are GFTH-GFTB.
Here are my simple goals for the month (you can make up your own, follow these, or tweak them how YOU see it fits your life):
- Capture a photo (or more) a day that makes a heart skip a beat, or race (by running to grab a camera to catch the moment). If you don’t have a camera, prefer describing in words such moments – then do that – or do both!
- Tag each post with #GFTH-GFTB so I (you) can look back at my (your) progress and remind me (us) to focus on goals that are GFTH-GFTB. These reminders will help me (you) succeed. Include this link back here if you want me to check out your post.
- When I read posts by a fellow blogger that resonate with me as a person who gets the GFTH-GFTB goal setting or thinking, I’ll comment and leave the #GFTH-GFTB link on their post or just the #GFTH-GFTB. Is that acceptable or not…I’m not sure but someone will let me know if it isn’t??
- Have fun, play, learn new things, meet new people, and write about in your journal or blog EVERY day in February!
Happy #GFTH-GFTB February to you!!
Postscript notes: Here are the fun blogs posts I discovered today that I left a #GFTH-GFTB message:
I’m so excited to discover more blog posts tomorrow!!