As a 50-something’r, (is that even a word?) I’m no different from a 20-something’r (might as well make it twice) trying to figure out the big questions in life.
“What the hell is life all about Alfie?” (Okay, yeah, I get it, I’m not a guy and I’m married, but still, the movie asked a lot of questions! The 1966 version is more familiar to me, and my mom loved Shelley Winters…I’m pretty sure that’s where my name came from, but I digress.)
Knowing all the answers is the fun part of life, right? When you have it all figured out, you rock life and no one can stop you. But no one, I mean no one, starts out knowing all the answers, right?? (Stop reading now if you have all the answers, you don’t need this post – send me the link to your blog or the book you read…or therapist, etc…!)
(Okay, Joe might be on to something, but let’s keep going, cuz’ that’s what Twisted Tuesdays are meant to do, whatever the hell I want to write/rant about! Go me!)
Or is it more fun to approach life without having the answers and continually search for the meaning of your own life? Then you get to conjure up what makes your heart sing and dance as you float off into the abyss of wonderment.
Who the f*ck really knows? Do YOU? Do I? Does anyone? Does Barbra Streisand?
Okay…I know, I should really stop swearing so much. I’ll be shunned by my friends, family, and readers. But when the rant juices are flowing…don’t stop them!
If I could go back in time and have a serious talk (rant), you know the ‘this is what you need to do to get a head start on life’ kind of talk, I’d tell myself a bunch of valuable shit. Because I’ve learned a litany of things in 30 years since hitting the rightful age of know-it-all status of a 20-something’r.
There’s wisdom in experience and gray hairs grown along the way. There’s valuable “I don’t give a f*ck what others think” attitude that comes from living life, too.
Let me lecture you a moment about the 30 years in between 20 and 50. Those years are when you learn the real important shit about life. Don’t let your high school teachers or college professors tell you otherwise. In school, you learn how to navigate the institutional requirements and schedules that keep you moving forward. You don’t learn how to navigate life without the structure you have while being a student. The moment you’re done being told what to do, and you have to tell yourself what to do and be disciplined with enough guts to figure out how to live in the real world, is when the life you really want to have started.
Being a student of life, you learn by earth, wind, and fire, and a box (or more) of Kleenex.
23 valuable lessons (limited due to time, space, and today’s rant life…always leave your readers hanging…longing…for life…for more…) you’ll learn as you live life after you graduate:
- You might not get your cute little ass hired the first time you apply for a job.
- You might not like the job your cute little ass got you hired for, don’t stick it out, quit (but find a replacement job first).
- You might love the job you got, but your cute little ass will get fat from sitting there all day (so exercise, eat right, get sleep, etc.)
- You might lose the job you love, and your cute little ass will find another job, eventually, and the cycle will begin again (repeat 1-4 as much as you dare or create your own job where you’re the boss).
- You will fall in and out of love until you find the perfect person. Even then, you’ll both have moments of struggles in your relationship because no one is perfect.
- You will experience love in more ways than your heart and head could ever imagine.
- You will experience loss in more ways than your heart and head could ever imagine.
- You will experience responsibility in more ways than your heart and head could ever imagine (all the shit that you didn’t learn in school).
- You will experience disappointments in more ways than your heart and head could ever imagine.
- You will fit in.
- You won’t fit in.
- You will make money.
- You will spend money.
- You will die not needing any money.
- You will accumulate stuff.
- You will get rid of stuff.
- You will make friends, keep friends, and you will lose track of friends.
- You will second guess yourself more times than your heart and head can imagine.
- You will make decisions that others don’t agree with (including yourself, see #18).
- You will feel lost and long for the beach or an escape (just a few times, especially in winter).
- Your hair will turn gray, and no amount of dye will cover it forever.
- And then one day, you’ll look back and say, “Why did I give such a f*ck about the non-important things in life?”
- And then…you’ll stop worrying about the things that you have no control over and you’ll start living the life that makes your heart sing.
Bonus Tip #24: Don’t wait until you’re a 50-something’r to live the life that makes your heart sing, start living it now, today!
Suggested readings, if you’re so inclined to read a real author’s advice who, by the way, swears, too – so there!!:
What’s on your valuable life lessons list? Have you read the recommended readings? What did you think of the books? Do you have other recommended readings?